Unmarried at 30- 5 Reasons You Should Not Worry About Being Cursed

In today’s world, turning 30 means you are of age. But being unmarried at 30 means you are cursed.

Some friends and family members stay on your case like coconut rice and chicken pepper soup, urging you to get married and start a family.

You are reminded of your age simply to state your biological clock isn’t waiting. And if by any chance marriage becomes elusive at 35, you are at risk of being ridiculed.

The pressure!

Can you blame them?

When society perceives marriage as an achievement, the cycle continues.

Something happened last week.

I settled into my chair churning words for a new blog post when I recalled I needed to make a call. By the time I hung up, tears poured out of my eyes, onto my cheeks.

The thick skin I have been growing since I turned 25 has not fully developed.

Being a deep thinker and super sensitive, I rehearsed the thoughts and pondered on the words until I began to hear voices in my head telling me I was cursed.

My dreams were plagued by nightmares. The emotional assault was real. Questions scrambled for answers in my heart embellished with doses of fear.

Depression took over when I began to define my worth based on having a romantic partner.

I knew I had to do something. I fought for my sanity with the Word of God.

Psalms 46:9-10 stilled my troubled emotions:

He makes wars to cease to the end of the earth; He breaks the bow into pieces and snaps the spear in two; He burns the chariots in the fire. Let be and be still, and know (recognize and understand) that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations! I will be exalted in the earth!

I choose not to worry anymore because God will be exalted in my life.

5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Worry About Being Cursed

1. You are not cursed: As long as you are a believer in Christ, your past and its accolades does not exist. There is no record of wrong that makes you guilty. Don’t take my word for it.

Here’s a peek into Hebrews 8:12:

For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more.

Just because you are born into a dysfunctional family characterized by certain negative patterns doesn’t mean you are cursed.

If you are cursed, Satan would not have allowed you make progress in any area of your life. His mission is to kill, steal and destroy. And he wants all of you dead,not just your marital life. Kick out the deception before it ruins your life.

If Satan can lay on hold on you today, then it means the blood of Jesus Christ and the power of God to save is weak and void.

2. You will surely get married: Some time ago, I shared these words in an article, The longing to be romantically involved with someone is not demonic. God wired us to love and receive love. However, self-control must be employed else you’ll ruin your love story.

Related Reading: 20 Motivational Quotes For Love Relationships

Beating your brains about marriage will not immediately make a man propose to you. So be calm. When the stage is set, the world will read your love story.

Do not forget these blessed words:

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God (Philippians 4:6).

Nothing includes thoughts of marriage.

3. God is interested in your love story: Don’t get it twisted, God is not only about praying in tongues and Bible study. He is love personified. You are a product of His love.

Zip back to the days of Abraham, God strategically helped Abraham’s servant get a wife for Isaac. One day God will open the eyes of your spouse to see you.

Related Reading: Something You Need To Know About Romance

4. Your man will find you: Proverbs 18:22 says,

He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favour from the Lord.

The pressure to be married will make you go all out to get a man by all means.

Is it really worth it?

I suggest men should do the hunt. Even if you’re crushing on someone, you don’t need to flaunt your feelings suddenly. Take a seat behind and let him come to get you.

Let the man do his job.

5. You are unique and beautiful: The presence or absence of a man in your life doesn’t define your worth.

In fact, your man should be bothered about where you are because he needs help. And you are his helpmeet. Rather than bury your head in shame and droop with low self-esteem, I encourage you to be nice and intentional about life. Be the best version of yourself every moment.

Conclusion

Just because you are not married or involved in a relationship at 30 doesn’t something is wrong with you spiritually. It is definitely not your time.

Leverage on these words from Relationship Experts, Ocholi and Julia Okutepa:

• Nothing is spectacularly different about you and God is not treating this as an emergency. Don’t let anyone treat you as such.

• Whether it is your fault or not you aren’t married, it isn’t as important as you often make it. Now is the time to look forward.

• Anxiety, fear and desperate actions will undermine your future. It is time to calm down and observe basic lessons.

• The person that fits God’s approval for you may not fit all your natural desires and expectations but will fit your destiny. With prayer, diligence and understanding you will know him when he stands before you.

• Tailor your expectations. Don’t expect less and don’t overprice it. Don’t condition your thoughts based on your age. You are an Eve and God has an Adam for you, 30 has not changed that.

• Your aim is not to get a man, so stop strategizing that way. Your aim is to get into your God-ordained union. That’s easier.

8 thoughts on “Unmarried at 30- 5 Reasons You Should Not Worry About Being Cursed

    1. Yes! God doesn’t give up on His daughters. Until then, let’s keep fulfilling purpose.

      Come Thursday, February 14th, we will celebrate in grand style.

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  1. Wow! This is piece is really a teacher to the frustrated single ’30s and it gives light to how to enjoy singlehood till the right person comes. Faith’s pen, more grace. This is an encouraging, consoling, comforting and directive. Thanks

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  2. Hello friend, might I share? The Lord led me to Times Square Church after years of running from Him. I was 35 & single. While I rejoiced in renewed faith, I began looking around…hmmmm…whom might the Lord have for me? Well, one day I truly felt the Lord speak, “Stop looking to the left and the right! Look straight ahead to Me!” So I focused in on the Lord and His word. I prayed for my husband, not knowing who he was!
    Soon enough, I met Bob, sitting right behind me….the next year we married…that was 22 years ago!
    Sorry long comment! 💜❤💜❤

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    1. I am so glad you shared this. This is huge. A testimony that serves as an encouragement to many out there trusting God for a life partner.

      35 and single? Your faith indeed produced patience. God is so faithful.

      Long comment approved.😁😁😁😁🤗

      God bless you, richly.

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