Your Pain: Who Is To Blame?

Supposed the wedding invite of a highly esteemed man of God to be joined in holy matrimony with a popular stripper and porn star is sent to you, would you honour the invitation?

Since you are here already, you can honour the invite by reading this piece I posted on my Facebook wall, a long time ago.

Hosea stood facing his stunning bride.

The makeup artist performed an artistic feàt on her face which stirred his heart.

Her false lashes and glossy nude lips reminded him of where and why he met her prior to asking the big question.

During one of his prayer sessions, the Lord appeared to him and said, “Find a whore and marry her. Make this whore the mother of your children.”

His heart broke. “But Lord, I am a Prophet. Why a prostitute?”

The Lord answered, “Here’s why: This whole country has become a whorehouse, unfaithful to me, God. I will use your life to tell my Message of Love.”

“I will, Lord.”

A year later, Gomer, became his choice.

The sinking feeling in his stomach could not steal the thought of covering her mouth with his as he gazed upon her full lips.

“Do you take Gomer to be your lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, till death do you part?” The officiating minister asked.

Happy tears filled his eyes.

In the midst of a seeming impossible instruction, he found LOVE.

Gomer was the famous prostitute who found favour in his sight.

He was glad he obeyed God.

Looking steadily into her eyes, he motioned the ring through her finger and echoed with a husky voice, “Yes, I do.”

“You may now kiss your bride”.

And he did.

Who is to blame for Gomer’s Promiscuity?

When Hosea’s wife, Mrs.Gomer is mentioned, the figure of a whore beat about our brains.

We tilt our thoughts subconsciously to her deeds and forget her personality.

Gomer was not born a prostitute.

She was a bouncing baby girl with cute eyes and soft fingers the day she slid into this planet. Gomer is actually the daughter of Diblaim (the blame).

But how did Daddy’s girl become every man’s girl?

Could it be that Dad and Mum modelled harlotry as a venture to her?

Could it be that prostitution was the only means of survival when Daddy left her on the street as a child to die?

Gomer is the product of the blame.

Gomer is the product of her father’s action.

Now, let’s leave Gomer behind, for a while.

I want to talk about you.

Who is to blame for your mess, fears, mediocrity, vulnerability and insecurity?

Could it be that you became a “runs girl” because there were numerous bills to pay and no one could come to your aid?

Could it be that you are stuck to pornography and masturbation because someone messed with your mind and emotions at a tender age?

Could it be that you became a lesbian because someone tore your hymen forcefully?

Could it be you stopped serving God because you felt let down by Him?

Could it be you’re contemplating suicide became life has proven not to make sense?

Who is to blame for your dysfunction?

God’s Plan in your pain

The story of Hosea and Gomer is elucidative.

The plot conveys an expositive message of unrestrained love, total forgiveness, apt obedience and unflinching faithfulness.

It is usually in the most sensitive part of our lives that God calls us to impossible tasks.

It is when our boats are about to capsize that God tells us to storm out and walk on troubled waters.

He moves us out of convenience to inconvenience. Why?

With an intent to bring beauty out of chaos, tragedy, drama and twists.

Could it be that your private storm was God’s idea to model strength, love, hope and peace to someone?

God is a specialist in setting people up.

He set Hosea up to find LOVE in the most unlikely place (a brothel). And his love story teaches us how much God loves us in spite of our mess.


Whatever mess you are in today will be a tool of hope and strength if you will but say yes to God.

It may just be a SET UP for something greater than you!

Time has come to put away the horrid past, else it will keep you imprisoned.

Whatever happened in your childhood or teenage years should not affect your adulthood.

My Pastor puts it this way “Whatever happened to you at 10 should not affect you at 30.”

Irrespective of the mess you have become today, you are loved wholeheartedly.

I mean it.

God loves you.

He knew when homosexuality became the norm.

He watched quietly even as you popped in the abortion pills.

It was His mercies that kept you from bleeding to death.

God loves you with an everlasting love.

The depth of His love knows your past yet wants to identify with you.

“But God shows and clearly proves His [own] love for us by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One) died for us” (Romans 5:8 AMP). And He knows you by name.

The blame is over.

The effect of the blame is also over in Christ Jesus.

For he who is Christ Jesus is a new creation, the old is gone and the new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17 GNB).

Christ has become your Hosea; and in the fullness of time, He will send another Hosea to you in flesh and blood.

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